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THINGS TO KEEP PRIVATE IN MARRIAGE.

1. YOUR SPOUSE'S SEXUAL STRUGGLES
If your husband doesn't last long in bed or his penis loses erection quickly, if your wife has an unpleasant smell or she struggles to do some sex positions; don't expose him/her to your friends or someone who you are flirting with in bid to justify why you are flirting. The sexual struggles in your marriage should be kept a secret as you both feel safe seeking solutions together

2. THE SWEETEST PART ABOUT YOUR SEX LIFE
If the sex in your marriage is incredible, don't go around sharing all the details; not because you are afraid your friends will want to steal your sexually amazing spouse, but because some things are best kept special by being kept secret just between you two. Others may know your spouse is great in bed, but they don't need to know the details of how great. Your love making is not for their entertainment

3. YOUR SPOUSE'S SALARY
Be careful especially when sharing this information with your family members; they might want to take advantage of your spouse if he/she earns alot or look down on your spouse if he/she earns less or nothing at the moment. You two know how much you bring to the family basket and know your limit on how engaged you want to be in supporting your relatives

4. WHAT YOU HAVE DONE FOR YOUR SPOUSE
Have you bought your spouse a car, have you given your spouse capital to start a business, have you paid your spouse's University education fees, have you bought your spouse an expensive gift or clothes?; don't go informing people about it. By doing good to your spouse, you did it for you because you two are one. If it came from your heart, you will not go bragging about it

5. YOUR SPOUSE'S PAST
If your spouse had a dark past; maybe your spouse made bad romantic choices in the past, procured an abortion, was sexually abused, was in a dishonourable profession; it is not your place to disclose this to people. If your spouse wants to share this as a testimony to encourage and teach others that should come from him/her, not you

6. YOUR PRIVATE PRAYERS AS A COUPLE
Are you two praying and fasting as a couple, perhaps you are praying for financial breakthrough, to get a child, to find solutions, to defeat a recurring problem in your marriage; keep this between you two as you cry out to God. You don't have to invite others into your private warroom

7. YOUR SPOUSE'S INNER STRUGGLES
Is your spouse struggling with an embarrassing addiction, perhaps porn, gambling, masturbation, alcoholism; don't go telling people to show how disappointed you are. Cover your spouse and mitigate the situation. If it is to talk to someone, let it be a counsellor or therapist to find constructive and practical solutions. You two will win this battle in private

8. YOUR SPOUSE'S COMPLAINTS ABOUT YOU
If there are things about you that your spouse doesn't like, change them instead of going out there telling people "Imagine my spouse is such a pain, complaining that I don't do XYZ"

9. YOUR SPOUSE'S COMPLAINTS ABOUT YOUR FRIENDS
If your spouse has an issue with your friend/friends, don't go telling your friends; they might gang up against your spouse and you might find yourself joining them to mock your spouse. Analyse your spouse's complaints, if they have merit, cut off that friend/friends or keep them distant

10. YOUR SPOUSE'S COMPLAINTS ABOUT YOUR RELATIVES
If your spouse raises concerns about your parents, siblings or relatives; don't go telling them. You will give them ammunition to attack and dislike your spouse. You are the bridge between your spouse and your relatives. Wisely use the information your spouse has shared with you to foster a better bond

11. THE ISSUES IN YOUR MARRIAGE
If your marriage is going through issues, don't go posting online those issues as you reveal your spouse's identity, posting on your wall or WhatsApp hoping that your spouse will read and get your attack message. No, solve issues in private

The world doesn't need to know everything about you two
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Speak words that promote wholeness

“You have been trapped by what you said.” Pr 6:2 NIV

 

Stormie Omartian says: “Early in my walk with the Lord I spoke many negatives…‘I’m a failure,’ ‘I’m ugly,’ ‘Nothing ever goes right,’ ‘Nobody cares about me,’…[Then] the Holy Spirit spoke to my heart…‘Death and life are in the power of the tongue’ (Pr 18:21 NKJV). I had been speaking words of death, not life.

One clear example had to do with my speech problems. I’d had them since childhood and was teased about them all through school…[When] I was old enough to afford professional help, I worked with a speech therapist…I practiced day after day, year after year, to gain…little improvement…I still lost my voice…halfway through each [speaking] engagement…‘I’ll never be able to speak right,’ I cried…But as I spoke those words…the Lord [said]: ‘You’re bringing death to your situation because you’re not speaking the truth…Do not speak what you think…or what seems to be truth…speak what you know to be the truth of my Word…‘The stammering tongue will be fluent and clear’ (Isa 32:4 NIV)…‘I have put My words in your mouth’ (Isa 51:16 NKJV)…Soon after, when I was asked to speak at a…women’s meeting, I took my fears…to [God]…and…spoke [His] truth instead of voicing my own negative opinions…My talk went so well…an entire speaking ministry opened up…The Bible says, ‘You are snared by the words of your mouth’ (Pr 6:2 NKJV). That includes [your self-talk]…Wipe [out] words of hopelessness, doubt, and negativity from your vocabulary. [They] may seem harmless…but [they] affect your body and soul…Speak words that reflect the wholeness you desire.”
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