I am not perfect either

Small changes that's all it takes, the battle is all about conquering the flesh and it's desires .Wisdom is in admitting that you are not perfect and never to blame anyone or the situation but to carry your own cross.

The day I died

My son I am no different from you , all the passions you now felt ,I once was yoked by them. It wasn't easy at all the struggle to be righteous by your own effort is a never ending journey and normally we falter in all our efforts.

What is more, I consider everything a loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord, for whose sake I have lost all things. I consider them garbage, that I may gain Christ. Philippians3:8 NIV

Never let anxiety and self condemnation be your daily bread , our enemy is always on the rampage seeking the weak who are always reminded of their sins ,so they would feel useless and continue living in sin.

The more you live in sin the harder it is to live to your full potential.. but all hope is not lost there is is Jesus Christ who can give you a true and better identity.

It started by a puff of smoke and the next thing it was booze ... The happiness the earth offers is of no value the end is only death. Before I knew it I was changing girls like I would my underwear , committing adultery seemed fashionable but the more I moved from one girl to the next the more I got confused about relationships.. 

No woman would quench the thirst I had for fulfillment , I did not stop myself from experimenting ,but all women seemed the same .. then I wondered why did the Bible put value in marriage when all I felt was dissatisfaction in relationships.

I am no bad parent at all , me and your mother we just couldn't make it ,we were too young or to be blunt I was drowning in the world that I lost focus on the real essence of life .

I followed after worldly pleasures,  Ohhh yes I had to be very fashionable girls liked a man who dressed in a certain way .. it was really easy in our days .. dress a certain way ,drive a car and you can get any woman you want...Vanity of vanities it is.

The world had taken me on a journey of no return , the music I listened to encouraged me to act and think in a certain way... This is not new my son... What you are facing is not new at all .

But the Devil operates by stealing time from the children of God. Time wasted is never regained... the time I realised the folly of worldly pleasures I had lost you , and I had already passed my youth, with nothing to show ,only failed marriages , poverty and depression.I had by this time attempted suicide 3 times , I could tell my life was going nowhere.

I had tried every brand of alcohol I knew of to get rid of the emptiness inside of me , and yes I used drugs too... Talk of marijuana I became addicted to it too ...but all of these things are useless , just a weapon used by the devil to keep mankind in chains.

But I met Jesus Christ ,he changed my life.. My life changed after I was introduced to the Jesus Christ of the Bible.

My son obey the commandment of God and do not let anyone or anything derail you from serving him , he loves you the way you are. I am begging you today come and taste the love of God in Jesus Christ you will testify.

Have more time studying the word of God .. Your success is only assured in Jesus Christ.

Give your life to God 

Winning with words

Words create reality ,a curse or a blessing is a word stated to someone. Words can be used as a weapon to lure and wreck a life.Sales and Marketing people invest maximum of their time in analyzing phrases which could lure people.Politicians have mastered deceiving words to apply in their campaigns.What you think you are today is honestly due to words you selected to agree with or your society selected to trust.

Each and everyday we interact with unique people , it is these conversations that form our technique in life. Lately most international thinkers are suggesting that its wiser to be friends with individuals who are better than us,simply put conversations vary depending on who you are with and your attitude changes depending on who you are interacting with.People who are beneath you economically  will make you feel like you have executed all there is to life, while the ones higher than you constantly remind you of improvements necessary in your life.

Wisdom is calling however few are listening ,folly is properly marketed and our people are sinking in sin ,they chose to get understanding from wrong sources.Wisdom can best be attained from God.We pray to the Almighty , he created the heavens and earth every time we kneel down in prayer we are acknowledging that we need his wisdom to pursue our purpose.Adam was to man God's creation and only God knew exceptionally well his design parameters and to what capacity the creation could be advanced. Adam needed to consult with the manual who was God.

The source of information as far as the garden of Eden was concerned was God.Satan attacked Eve with enticing words , he carefully selected words to instill doubt her mind concerning the source of information (God).Satan created a mind of inadequacy in Eve ,she took instruction from Adam ,and Adam from God so you can understand Eve's position in this conversation with Satan.A hunger for power and authority was deposited in Eve's mind eventually her view of the fruit changed ,now it looked edible and beautiful in her eyes.

Genesis 3:4-5 (KJV) And the serpent said unto the woman, Ye shall not surely die:
For God doth know that in the day ye eat thereof, then your eyes shall be opened, and ye shall be as gods, knowing good and evil.

Surely before Eve ate the fruit she knew good and evil ,so whatever information Satan was bringing on the table it wasn't new.God had told them eating that fruit was wrong, and it was evil to disobey God .Words are a weapon an enemy is always using to derail God's people.Notice the style Satan used here ,"Is it true that God said? ". How many times have you heard  this phrase?At times they ask ,"is it true that christians are not allowed to do this?"

We are living in a difficult season ,the enemy is fighting the truth .Being truthful has gone out of style ,you can't trust words you hear in the street.Organizations are investing lots of money to conceal certain truths from the world .What really is the truth and how do you maintain sanity in a world buried with deceit?.Do you join them or stay different that's a choice we have to make daily when we wake up.So how do we win this battle.

The solutions are found in the Bible ,we learn lots from Job's responses to condemnation from friends and from his wife.In the famous conflict between David and Goliath there was a peculiar verbal exchange among them ,in the long run Goliath lost the struggle.When Jesus fasted forty days and forty nights Satan tried to confuse him, however he failed in his attempt.So words play a pivotal function in the achievement or failure of your mission.

So what really determines who wins in a negotiation or a conversation ,since now we understand that a conversation is made up of words with power to %%uplift or destroy you.People negotiate everyday for different reasons parent to child ,buyer to seller , employer to employee ,wife to husband so really you can't avoid this because we are designed by nature to negotiate everything in life.So they are principles to be followed in life.These principles are not to be taken lightly for our life depend on these skills.And a carefully approach should be taken when engaging in any conversation.

We observed that Eve and Samson faced a similar fate Eve lost her prestige after a verbal exchange with the snake , similarly Samson lost his power after a verbal exchange with Delilah. To Eve the snake was innocent and it wasn't worth considering an enemy. To Samson , Delilah was his spouse so he expected her to preserve his secret. People do make the error of loosing their shield when interacting with people they consider harmless so they get destroyed. So when undertaking any verbal exchange ,stay true to yourself .Know who you are and what you represent.We are children of God ,and in anything we do we represent Jesus Christ ,it is his kingdom we want to bring on earth.

In another famous story of Esther in the Bible , Mordecai was about to be assassinated with Haman. Haman has used his influence to issue a decree that could bring about the demise of many Jews. Mordecai and the rest of the Jews fasted for three days and they planned cautiously the phrases Esther was to apply in approaching King Xerxes.In her words ,she confirmed the king's authority and acknowledged that she and her people were his responsibility only the King could set them free.

Queen Esther answered, “If I have found favor in your eyes, O King, and if it please the king, give me my life, and give my people their lives. “We’ve been sold, I and my people, to be destroyed—sold to be massacred, eliminated. If we had just been sold off into slavery, I wouldn’t even have brought it up; our troubles wouldn’t have been worth bothering the king over.” King Xerxes exploded, “Who? Where is he? This is monstrous!”
Esther 7:3‭-‬5 MSG

You are in charge of your destiny , whether or not you get demoted or promoted in life is completely dependent on you.

Humility constantly wins and pride always results in destruction. We learn a lot about humility from the life of Jesus Christ when Satan was tempting him (,if he had a hunger to prove himself he could have turned stones to bread) .Satan works by provoking a reaction and humility is proven with the actions we choose to take.Eve was provoked to sin the moment she was told God was hiding critical information regarding the fruit ,so we can argue that she ate the fruit out of anger.(getting data from wrong sources ruins your thinking).

We have another case when Jesus met Legion , the demons started praising Jesus and calling him Son of God but rather he rebuked them to keep silent.Any situation the Devil was using to install pride in Jesus ,he resisted it. Any person with a proud heart is defeated before undertaking any conversation , for this reason silence is even wiser if your heart is not right.

You are designed to win in every situation ,the bible is made up of so many examples of the characters who won or failed in their missions and we have to study and understand so we can be victorious too in our daily endeavours.

At work you represent a different function and at home you are playing a unique role. Sundays when we go to church we are playing a special role however in all these scenarios we are to be victorious.None of your daily activities have the strength to derail you if you are persistent in your identity in Christ. We get questioned day by day ,we must stay on course soldier, we are the light of the world. True transformation starts with us , everyday we have to follow the example of the prophets who gained daily with their words.

Satan was defeated long time ago , he has no right to harass Christians. Seek wisdom and understanding to live your life righteously ,redeeming the time for we are to profit in this life. Why should you loose your life to the devil .Resist him and he will flee.

Stay protected and win in your next conversation.

Shalom